Rethinking M/M Romance Intimacy that Reads Like Heterosexual Love

While Sean Michael’s His Very Own Vampire is a heated, entertaining, but otherwise rather unremarkable novella, it made me rethink some of my ideas about women writing male/male romances.

One of the critiques of women who write male/male romances concerns the lack of believability regarding the mechanics of man-on-man physical intimacy. In particular, for me sometimes male/male sex in these stories often focuses on anal intercourse, with the culmination of both the relationship and the sexual release only coming from such penetrative encounters. In my personal experience, these encounters seem much closer to the sex I’ve had with women rather than men. Many men aren’t particular fans of anal intercourse, rarely practice it, and in my experience only a handful enjoy bottoming so incredibly much it gives them mind-blowing orgasms. (Many men find plenty of other physical acts with another man to be extraordinarily intimate and wonderfully overwhelming. On the other hand, in male/female encounters I have found vaginal sex much more often leads to the most intimate contact and most intense releases for both parties.)

I don’t mind that many intimate scenes in m/m romance focus on anal sex for the most physically satisfying, emotional-connecting encounters, even if they strike me as a bit more typically heterosexual then gay male love. I’m sure there are male couples who experience this intensity from anal intercourse. Even if I’m right and that such a focus on mind-blowing anal intercourse is rare in real life, if the authors and readers (female or male) enjoy those scenes in a steamy romance, that’s all that really matters. Although it sometimes stretches believability for me just a bit, I still can appreciate that type of consummation when the characters, chemistry, and heat are  enticing and well written.

In Sean Michael’s book, the ultimate physical intimacy included the human male climaxing from the vampire’s hand, mouth, and then finally from being mounted, all in quick succession, and all the while maintaining and not losing a heightened, stiff sense of arousal. I have found this type of reaction very typical in my encounters with women (building repeated orgasms moving from fingers to mouth to intercourse) and unknown in my encounters with men (who have always needed significant recovery time after release to start again, if they recovered again that session at all). So when I read this story, I assumed a woman had written it, as it struck me as it seemed typical to me of male/female love and not at all of male/male intimacy.

But this writer is a man.

I take a couple of lessons from the fact that a male author wrote a m/m sex scene that reminded me personally much more of heterosexual intimacy.

1) Since a vampire was involved, it’s possible the continuous arousal and multiple orgasms of the human man could very well be keying off a mystical connection with his blood mate, even if that wasn’t clear to me in the book. Sometimes suspending a little disbelief, be it for paranormal abilities or just for reasons of author preferences and plot devices, allows the reader to let those “semi-believable” moments enhance the reading experience and can make the story more enjoyable for the reader.

2) Just because something in a male/male romance strikes me as more like male/female sex, doesn’t mean other male couples have not experienced this type of overwhelming release or will interpret the scene in the same way that I do.

As I said, when I’ve previously read m/m intimate scenes that read to me like m/f sex, it usually didn’t bother me or I found it only a bit incongruous with the story. After reading such a scene by a male writer, I’m even more likely to chalk my reaction up to my personal history, and therefore likely to be even more accepting that at least some male couples experience and/or appreciate the greatest intimacy, emotional connection, and physical release from fully penetrative, personal intercourse with another man.


His Very Own Vampire by Sean Michael Book Cover

Title: His Very Own Vampire
Author: Sean Michael
Genre:  Paranomal M/M Romance
Format:  Novella (60 pages)
Publisher: Amber Allure (October 2015)
ISBN: 9781681750996

Other: Out of print (Amber closed)

3 stars (out of 5)

Tagline:  Lost human heir inherits a vampire protector 

A brief, entertaining novella that has a minimal but interesting story leading to a nice, heated payoff in the end. The set-up, a vampire serving a human house, is different and intriguing, although the story is so short I wanted to know much more about how “short-lived” mortals would keep a long-lived vampire in their service as a bodyguard for generations. The connection with a human heir who did not know his family led to some nice interaction with a drifter who suddenly finds a vampire out to protect him. Finally, the ultimate physical connection was nicely intense for me. Overall, it was short and nothing particularly bewitching, but an enjoyable little diversion in any case.


A Male Writer’s Take on Women writing MM Romance

I am posting a link to an interesting post from a gay male author of MM romance regarding the occasional (but seemingly recurrent) concerns regarding women authors (and readers) dominating the genre. While I am sympathetic with some of the points raised by critics, I overall greatly appreciate the community and the efforts of all authors to present romantic (and often heated) stories that I can identify with and greatly enjoy. This blog post reflects much of my own feelings on the issue (as I am a male reader of MM romance).

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SterekThe argument has surfaced again and again over the four years since I first published in this genre:  Are women really capable of writing MM Romance?  After all, it’s about men.  Shouldn’t men write it?

My answer to those questions is a bit complex, so bear with me.

First, a little history.  This is based upon my personal experience, supplemented by some cursory research, so don’t take anything I say as absolute fact.  I would love to see someone do a really thorough history of the genre someday.

I don’t know how old modern “gay literature” is.  I do know E.M. Forster wrote Maurice in 1913 (though it wasn’t published until after his death in 1971).  Blair Niles published a novel in 1931 called Strange Brother, which tells of the friendship between a heterosexual woman and a gay man.   Authors such as Christopher Isherwood and Langston Hughes…

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